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How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex
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Someone is going to teach your kids about sex . . . . . . shouldn’t it be you?

Prime time television programs, retail clothing ads, Internet pop-ups, even games and cartoons—today’s society churns out endless sex-filled images that children have no capacity to understand, let alone process. So how can you prepare your child for a sexually explicit world and help them make the all-important connections between sex and love in their life.

With humor, compassion, and real-life examples, noted Harvard psychologist Dr. John Chirban helps parents handle issues of sexuality—from the earliest years through adolescence and into adulthood. Drawing on scientific research and years of clinical experience, he offers tools that strengthen the parent/child relationship and insights on how to:

  • Open lines of communication at every stage of your child’s development
  • Define your values so you can clearly convey them to your child
  • Mentor your child on sexual matters and the meaning of intimacy and love
  • Help your child understand the connections between sex, intimacy, and love

Dr. Chirban also includes exercises to help you clarify your own feelings about sexuality and sexual issues, improve your listening and communication skills, and discover how your child feels about his or her body—pointing out that kids needs their parents most concerning sexual issues, yet a topics where parents feel most uncomfortable and reserved. You’ll find guidelines on what to say, when to say it, and who you should say it to. In addition, Dr. Chirban provides troubleshooting tips on some tricky topics that may have left you floundering.

How to Talk with Your Kids about Sex prepares parents for healthy and ongoing conversation that will equip their kids to own their own sexuality and understand the larger issues of relationships, love, commitment, and intimacy. Buy opening up meaningful, honest conversation on sexuality with your kids will provide them invaluable lessons for life and deepen your relationship.

What's Love Got To Do With It?
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Today's society churns out endless images promising sexual fulfillment but doesn't adequatley make the connection between sex and love. So how do your children learn to integrate their sexual, emotional, and spiritual feelings and values with their real-life experiences in relationships? There is no one more appropriate than you to launch and guide your children on this journey.

What's Love Got To Do With It? shows how you can model positive approaches to sexuality while responsibly guiding your children through the confusing and often negative sexual images and messages they constantly receive. Inside you will learn how to help them develop the confidence, integrity, and honesty necessary for dealing with the challenges of sex with a healthy perspective.

Noted Harvard psychologist Dr. John Chirban helps you handle the issues of sexuality—from the earliest years through adolescence and into adulthood. Drawing on scientific research and years of clinical experience, he gives you the tools to strengthen y our relationship with your child and tune in to your child's needs.

What's Love Got To Do With It? is a call to action for parents to begin a dialogue with their children on this vital aspect of life. The effort you put in will result in great rewards as a parent. You will be able to talk with your children about some of the most senistive and critical aspects of their lives. You will witness your children's fulfillment as they make strong connections between sex, intimacy, and love—and develop honest and meaningful relationships.

True Coming of Age
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True Coming of Age In this provocative and engaging book, Dr. Chirban shares exclusive personal insights from notable Americans including Tom Hanks, Maya Angelou, Sandra Day O’Connor, Ron Howard, and Tom Brokaw. More than individual stories of struggle, achievement, and success, these profiles tap personal concerns that we all share in our quest for both authenticity and meaningful connections.

In this journey toward self-knowledge and fulfillment, you’ll also discover the four-step process that opens the door to a meaningful life:

  • Knowing Your True Self—As you look honestly at yourself, you will rediscover your innate gifts—spontaneity, reasoning, creativity, free will, spirituality, discernment, and love.
  • Opening Your Heart—In beginning to build fulfilling connections, you will allow your True Self to express who you are to yourself and others.
  • Embracing Your Soul—When you feel abandoned or isolated, discover how to bring commitment, focus, and discipline back to your life with the enduring connection that comes from the Spirit.
  • Integrating Your Life—In bringing together your True Self, open heart, and fully embraced soul, you will be able to foster healthy, intimate connections.

As you explore the personal stories and learn to explore and master the four-step process, you’ll begin to understand your authentic nature and engage your innate gifts—igniting your unique evolution and experiencing True Coming of Age.


True Coming of Age: Audiobook

The audiobook of True Coming of Age is also now available nationwide, through bookstores and online sellers. Click the image for purchasing information, or visit for details.


Interviewing in Depth: The Interactive-Relational Approach

Interviewing in Depth: The Interactive-Relational Approach In Interviewing in Depth, John T. Chirban presents an innovating and powerful interviewing approach—the interactive-relational—that promises and delivers a clearer, deeper portrait of the person. By focusing on how the interviewer participates more fully in the interview, through particular interaction in the relationship he or she establishes, Chirban shows how the interviewer manages his or her personal feelings while still maintaining a professional stance. Through excerpts of interviews in journalism, oral histories, and psychohistory, Chirban draws from his work with B. F. Skinner, Lucille Ball, Sandra Day O'Connor, and patients to illustrate how the interactive-relational approach differs from more traditional techniques and applies to interviewing in the health professions, communications, and business as well as psychology.

Holistic Healing in Byzantium

Holistic healing has become a popular topic in modern times. Wherever we turn, we see modern, allopathic physicians as well as traditional healers stating confidently that healing the whole person is of greater value than healing a single part. Holistic Healing in Byzantium explains how this principle of holism is rooted in centuries of healing practiced by the Byzantines, who applied their view of a person’s psychosomatic nature to healing. Additionally this book shows how the study and application of varying methodologies among healing professionals in Byzantium lends support for an interdependent approach to healing with other fields.

Holistic Healing in Byzantium makes available to its reader both a powerful history and the epistemological and methodological paradigms useful and necessary to approach the task of healing today. Having developed this foundation we can fully understand Byzantine healing, seeing just how and why holism was natural to the Byzantines, and how it can be created anew in our own era.

Sickness or Sin? Spiritual Discernment and Differential Diagnosis

Sickness or Sin? This book makes a tremendous contribution to the dialogue between Christian faith and the healing professions. Reminding us that "knowing what to do - and how and when to do it  - characterizes the essence of spiritual discernment and differential diagnosis," editor John Chirban focuses this collection of articles around the critical issue of understanding in the therapeutic encounter. The result is a book that should be recognized for its value to all Christians with interest in exploring the relationship between healing, therapy, and spiritual transformation in the Orthodox tradition.  



Articles from various publications written by Dr. Chirban are now available on-line. Click on photo to view a sampling.

Interviews with Dr. Chirban on Divorce and Parenting

What Children Need to Cope with Divorce in Each Developmental Stage
The Dos and Don’ts of Ensuring That Your Children Aren’t in the Middle of Your Divorce
Musts when Informing Your Children About Your Divorce
How to Make the Best Use of Counseling During your Divorce